Having a bad day? It happens to the best of us. You get up on the wrong side of the bed. You feel out of sorts. You have an argument with your spouse. You yell at your kids. Your commute to work takes hours. Things just basically don’t go how you’d like them too.
But regardless of how bad your day might be going, remember this: You are in control. You always have a choice. Which means that you are not powerless.
The truth is that you are the thinker inside your own mind. This is great news because it means that you do not have to act or react at to every thought that pops inside your head, or to any person, circumstance, or situation that seems to be contrary to what you would like to experience in your day.
“Every moment provides you a new choice. And every choice you make will affect your life.” says speaker and life coach Kute Blackson.
“Just because the day is “bad”, or had been until now, doesn’t mean it needs to continue to be. When you realize this, you see that in each moment you can choose. In that choice is power, no one to blame, only full responsibility.”
Here are some quick strategies you can use to get back on track when you are having a bad day:
- Remember that it’s not necessarily the situation that is getting you down, but how you choose to look at that situation or circumstance. Ask yourself the following question – What is the story I am telling myself about this situation?
- Next, ask yourself – Without any stories, labels, opinions, judgment’s, or criticisms about this situation, what really has or is occurring here?
- Finally ask yourself – How can I turn this around?
When you find yourself having a bad day these three questions will immediately help you to gain a new perspective about not only what really is going on in that circumstance or situation, but also provides you with effective insights on how you can handle the situation.
I love the quote by Wayne Dyer that says, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” In my experience nothing can be further than the truth.
As a life coach I have shared this technique with hundreds of clients and without fail it has helped them to look at all situations with a fresh understanding, which in turn provides them with a new sense of personal empowerment. The most surprising thing is that often times by simply changing the way you view a situation, the situation seems to shift on it’s on without effort.
And finally, if you are having a bad day, take some time to reach out to someone you love and let them know how you are feeling. You are never alone.
A wise sage once told me that sharing a burden with someone you love is not weakness, but courageous strength. That wise man was my father. Reaching out to someone when you are having a bad day helps to lift any residual negative emotions which will ultimately help to reset your happy button.
Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow. ~ Swedish Proverb
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